Monday, December 28, 2015

One wish I wish for the New Year!


A thoughtful and wonderful sense of finality comes with this time of the year. One can't help notice how work slows down to a crawl for most, family and friends come to the forefront of otherwise busy calendars and the spirit of the season camouflages the harsher realities of our lives. Truly blessed is this season which engages the whole world in a conspiracy of love.
Love then still remains to be the quintessential answer to most of the problems faced by all of us. The deficiency or absence of this feeling in our relationships, friendships, families; in our day to day interactions with strangers or acquaintances alike have all at some point of time or the other allowed anger, resentment, ego, jealousy, hurt and fear to surface and infest our lives instead of mutual love, understanding and respect. Most essentially we seem to have forgotten how to love and accept ourselves. How to drive change by first infusing our souls with love wholeheartedly in order for it to radiate and spread around.
Perhaps it’s time we reflect on our interpretation of love then. Is it off late become a casual term used flippantly in social circles and social media, at appropriate times in between air kisses, cursory hugs and status updates? Has it become an overrated word for a largely underrated feeling? Is it time we take love more seriously?
This world would surely be a better place as a result.
For love is way bigger than who we are. It costs nothing, it’s free. It cannot be bought, sold, or traded. You cannot make someone love you, nor can you stop someone from loving you by paying a fee. It’s priceless.
We can offer love, but we cannot demand how, when, and where love chooses to expresses itself. You can choose to surrender to love, or not, but in the end love strikes like a bolt of lightning, unpredictable and indisputable. Love does not come with conditions, pre-requisites or postscripts. Love simply functions independently in spite of our uncertainties and desires.
Love cannot be gift wrapped. It cannot be given as a reward or payback. It cannot either be dished out as a punishment, or settlement. Only something else pretending to be love can be used as a lure, as a hook, for bait, but the real deal can never be delivered if it doesn't come straight from the heart. For at the core of its being, love is always true. I often wonder what people mean by true love? Is there a false love? Love is love.
This year end then let our love be patient. Let us not be short-tempered or frustrated with the people we love the most. Let’s learn to forgive and forget for love. Let go for love. Or even patiently hold on for it. Be kind in love. Sometimes we end up saying things we later regret to the people we love the most. Let’s make the time to consider the needs of the people who matter the most. And learn to trust in love. Though love sometimes envies and is easily angered, let not our love keep a record of wrongs. Let it not threaten to withhold itself if it doesn't get what it wants. Love is inherently selfless, not selfish.
In the end, and most importantly, let’s not forget to fall in love with ourselves first. Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing we will ever do. Let that be the source of all other loves.
So here I am, wanting to end the year with love. May ours last a lifetime.
For love never takes a holiday.
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